生涯的三個議題

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10 年前Steve Jobs 被邀請在一所美國頂級大學的畢業典禮致辭. 那是一篇很有感染力的演講. 它的力量, 不只是因為他是 Steve Jobs, 內容更不是 “成功必勝法”, “我的勝利之道”等截徑式的演說.

Steve Jobs只是平實地述說他的3個生涯故事,從中讓我們看到與每一個人息息相關的3個主旨:  

  1. 生涯故事的點點滴滴看似散亂發生,順逆不定,可是往回看卻發現它們有意義的連在一起,點滴小故事連成一本個人大劇目.過去所經歷的點滴,原來不會白費,也沒有枉然,一切都會在適當的將來帶來作用與幫助.(“…you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Jobs, 2005)
  2. 生涯的路上會有跌倒,經歷 “失去” (loss)──那些讓人痛苦,沮喪與失望的故事.人要爬起來,繼續往前走也非易事.不過,他的第二個故事述說出:沒有破壞與失去, 哪有建立與創造; 沒有結束, 哪有開始. 人在這個轉折的時候最重要是尋回初衷,愛你所愛的,從心裡就能產生所需的力量繼續向前走.(“The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.” Jobs, 2005)
  3. 生涯就是關於存在與死亡 (existentialism) 的故事.不論你屬於那個社會階層,來自哪個國家或文化,死亡之下人人平等.很多人在生涯路上不知道該如何做決定. 決定的掙扎位不外乎是關乎自己與關乎別人之間的拉扯. 任何一個曾在死亡邊緣徘徊的人都會有 “決定模式” 的重大轉變 (“…Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.” Jobs, 2005). 人在生死的情況下,才能夠看清自己,意識到什麼是對自己最重要的.外面紛擾的聲音頓然不再如當初有如此大的影響力,處於存在與死亡面前,那些聲音原來是微不足道.You may ask yourself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” (Jobs, 2005) 你的答案是什麼?嘗試問自己那個問題一個禮拜,看看你對自己的生涯會有怎麼樣的洞見?

每一個人都有屬於自己的故事.而自己的大小故事都是有其獨特的一致性,順逆點與點之間的聯繫,有一條意義之繩聯繫著自己的過去,現在及將來的人生.

人在生涯的最低處,回應自己內心最真實的呼喚,可以協助自己走出困局。

最後,人若能意識到存在的未知與有限,就會更懂得如何看待及規劃自己的生涯.Steve Jobs述說了他自己的故事,你的故事呢? 重新聆聽你的故事, 你聽到什麼?

演講全文: http://news.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html

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