How to lead a better life?

Blue Door

I used to have a Comfort Zone
Where I knew I couldn’t fail.
The same four walls of busy work
Were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things
I’d never done before,
But I stayed inside my Comfort Zone
And paced the same old floor.

I claimed to be so busy
With the things inside my zone,
But deep inside I longed for
Something special of my own.

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Psychology of Excuses

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Many people across ages struggle with looking for a job they desire, accepting a job offer/promotion,  or making a change in their career direction.

“I am too busy to do anything about changing job.“
“I don’t have the ability to do the work.”
“I won’t be able to have work-life balance.”
“Many people think/see/act this way.”
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Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear,
but around in awareness.

James Thurber, Author & Cartoonist

 

 

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The truth about negative emotions

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

M. Scott Peck, American  psychiatrist

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輔導室裡的故事

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在輔導房間裡, 最常訴說未了的故事圍繞後悔 (regrets), 迷惘 (lost), 恐懼 (fear).

不容易講出來的故事, 自然會想避免接觸, 不去講也不去看. 可是, 這些未了的故事並沒有真的被遺忘, 那些情緒總會在生活, 工作, 關係裡隱約地出現.

故事 (已發生了的事情, 作過的抉擇) 是不能從頭來過.

承認故事裡的後悔, 迷惘或恐懼的存在, 學習與它們共處, 並接受它們是成為現在的你的一部分. 然後, 在整合中才能重新認識自己, 賦予那些故事新的意義, 逐步編寫將來人生故事的章節.

輔導就是關於承認, 共處與接納的過程. 

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情緒, 你的名字是…?

人類的腦袋內, 思想與行為都受五種主要的情緒影響:歡樂 (joy)、憤怒 (anger)、憂傷 (sadness)、厭惡 (disgust)、害怕 (fear)。
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Stress

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壓力有兩面.

它帶來焦慮(anxiety), 恐懼 (fear), 挫敗感, 生活素質下降, 長遠的高度壓力可導致身體健康問題, 精神崩潰.

另外, 壓力也能帶來創意衝擊, 興奮感 (excitement), 原動力 (motivation), 成功感, 是人及社會邁向成長的引擎. 而適當的壓力可以驅動人作出改變 (change).

 

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