Psychology of Excuses

whats your excuse
Many people across ages struggle with looking for a job they desire, accepting a job offer/promotion,  or making a change in their career direction.

“I am too busy to do anything about changing job.“
“I don’t have the ability to do the work.”
“I won’t be able to have work-life balance.”
“Many people think/see/act this way.”

And the following are most common reasons:
“I have to make enough money for XX .”
“My family needs me.”
“I am too old for a change.”

By no means to disqualify the legitimacy of the above reasons for people who are struggling with moving on in their career life. In fact, these reasons are so real that, often time, many people internalize them and neglect to acknowledge the “psychological process” of the reasoning.

In the world of work, there are many common, “sounding logical” reasons why job seekers and workers at different levels have kept themselves from moving forward in their career.

Sounding logical reasons—“excuses”—without exploration and deconstruction could negatively impact one’s work performance, job satisfaction and career planning.

Many career dilemmas are often perpetuated by certain excuses that serve emotional purposes. People, who have gone thorough self-exploration of what’s behind their “excuses”, would realize that they are actually frightened by “wanting to follow their desire” (e.g., feeling selfish; afraid of being socially disapproved), fearful of possible failure in the new position/career (i.e., bringing disappointment to self and others), and also petrified at the unpredictable external world (i.e., losing a sense of control, helplessness).

What is your excuse?

The first step towards deconstructing the psychological barrier in your career is to pause and look inwardly–having internal dialogues with your excuse  (it usually comes automatically and does sound very logical and convincing). How long has this excuse been with you in your career or personal life? What does it protect you from? How helpful has it been for you? Also, how unhelpful has it been for you?

If you find this first step daunting to you, and need professional help in identifying and deconstructing the emotional purposes in your career-related excuses, you can make appointment with an experienced career counselling professional.

 

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