Emotion at Work

We are human being. We are not robots or machines.
Emotion is a core part of being a human.

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生涯的三個議題

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10 年前Steve Jobs 被邀請在一所美國頂級大學的畢業典禮致辭. 那是一篇很有感染力的演講. 它的力量, 不只是因為他是 Steve Jobs, 內容更不是 “成功必勝法”, “我的勝利之道”等截徑式的演說.

Steve Jobs只是平實地述說他的3個生涯故事,從中讓我們看到與每一個人息息相關的3個主旨:   Continue reading

Psychology of Excuses

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Many people across ages struggle with looking for a job they desire, accepting a job offer/promotion,  or making a change in their career direction.

“I am too busy to do anything about changing job.“
“I don’t have the ability to do the work.”
“I won’t be able to have work-life balance.”
“Many people think/see/act this way.”
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The truth about negative emotions

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The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

M. Scott Peck, American  psychiatrist

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Self-Awareness Matters

What is self-awareness (自我察覺)?

It is a process of self-exploration that brings unconscious to conscious. It is like a person having an internal dialogue (not the same as self-talk)  with his/her inner self. “That’s the way I am” and “I already knew that I have been repeating this behavior/emotional experience” are example statements of self-understanding.  Yet, an intellectual level of understanding does not ncessarily bring change.

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輔導室裡的故事

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在輔導房間裡, 最常訴說未了的故事圍繞後悔 (regrets), 迷惘 (lost), 恐懼 (fear).

不容易講出來的故事, 自然會想避免接觸, 不去講也不去看. 可是, 這些未了的故事並沒有真的被遺忘, 那些情緒總會在生活, 工作, 關係裡隱約地出現.

故事 (已發生了的事情, 作過的抉擇) 是不能從頭來過.

承認故事裡的後悔, 迷惘或恐懼的存在, 學習與它們共處, 並接受它們是成為現在的你的一部分. 然後, 在整合中才能重新認識自己, 賦予那些故事新的意義, 逐步編寫將來人生故事的章節.

輔導就是關於承認, 共處與接納的過程. 

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我喜歡的是…?!

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有一些人當在各樣不同項目中要揀出哪些是自己喜歡/對自己重要時, 他們第一反應:
“我可以先揀出不喜歡的嗎?”
“這裡有你喜歡的嗎?”
“我只知道那些自己不喜歡…揀出不喜歡的, 好像比較容易…”
他/她們揀出來”不喜歡”的佔了全部東西的2/3.
看到剩下的幾樣東西, 問她/他: “這些是你喜歡, 對你重要的東西?”
“….好像不太是…其實只是沒有那麼不喜歡而已…” Continue reading